Happy day!
Some times I think the hardest thing to do is to offer to help someone else.
If you want to help someone cook, you hate to do something wrong or ask where everything is so you can cook. You worry that the person may not like your new dish.
When you buy a present, you worry that the person may not like it or may already be getting the same thing from someone else.
This weekend, I am helping my sweetie move. While I am happy to help and do everything I can, I feel like I am not helping in many ways too. Right now, we are sitting doing nothing. While I am awake and ready to go, he has worked all night and is tired and needs some time to rest. Since he currently lives in another city, that leaves me to sit around too. I can;t say I feel useless. But I feel like some of my best time to work is being wasted and I am afraid to do anything without him telling me. It is his stuff, after all.
Its that old adage, hurry up and wait. I am here and now I wait.
Oh. And there is no coffee so you better enjoy your cup for me.
I am sure you are wondering, where I went. Truth is, I haven't gone anywhere. I have been still stuck at home with very little to do. But mostly, I have been so scatter brained, there is nothing that has been bothering me or even staying in my brain long enough to be a bother. But this morning I got such a happy suprise, it got my brain going.
So....
When I wake up, I always check my emails. See what is going on in my small little world. I got an email from my bank. I hate those. When I see those I know I did something wrong and they are going to stick it to me big time. When I opened the email, and then opened my eyes,
Very.......
Slowly.....
Wow! It was only a bank statement! I finally made it through 1 month without any fees!!!!! Now, before you bash me, I never used to have any problems. But when you go from bringing in enough money to enjoy life, to making only 30% of it..... Well expect some adjustments and some fees. But back to my rant.
Bank Fees
I swear there is a fee for everything. A fee to remove your money in an ATM. A fee to return a check, OD fees, and a fee from the company that got the check back. Yes, they are all fees for me not budgeting or watching my funds correctly. But look at it this way:
Check comes in making your account balance -$5
Bank Charges $35 but sends the check back.
Store charges $40 to resubmit the check.
Bank's fee makes account in the negative so they charge $5 for every day you don't bring your account into the positive.
Then the company resubmits it again causing the same circle of events.
So, a bounced check, costs you hundreds of dollars. That takes food off the table, gas out of the car, and no fun for the family for the month.
What really should be done? Well, I should watch my account better, make more money. Wait. No job for that. Well, you get the idea. It really isn't the bank's fault for me being negative. But, I wish they would understand more. I wish I was not a number to them.
But back to my positive note. I HAD NO FEES THIS MONTH!!! Happy dance time!!
Maybe today is not a rant. It is a joy!
Time to have that special cup.
With Valentine's coming up, I have been doing a lot of thinking about love. I guess I am trying to make sense out of everything. Out of life.
First I should tell you I have been in love many times, as I am sure most of you have. I married my high school sweetheart and was always faithful until he went to heaven at a very early age. So, I got to enter the dating scene once again.
I found a man I was deeply in love with. He asked me to marry him after we had lived together for over 2 years. I said yes. Then 2 months later, he told me he was taking a break and never came back. So was that really true love?
I can tell you that if we did get married, I would have stayed faithful and divorce would have never entered my mind. I would have done everything I could to make it all work out. I know this about myself. When I give, I give my entire being.
So this brings me to my thought of the day. Is there such a thing as true love? And if there is, with all the divorces now, does that mean that people are not knowing what true love is?
Here is my philosophy. In history, divorce was just not something that was widely accepted. People just didn't do it. They stayed together through everything. As time went on, more and more people started accepting it for any reason they felt that the marriage was not going well. So, I have come to the conclusion that many people do not know what true love is. But, this has been the problem all along. It is just been a belief. If you walk down that isle and believe the words you say, then you would stay together through everything. If you believe that when things fall apart, you should find someone better...... Well, I think that is why there is so many divorces.
Oh, and to finish my life's story up to now, I did find a man who I believe is my true love. And I wasn't even looking for anyone. I guess that is just how God works.
But if you are struggling at marriage or a relationship, just remember things are not supposed to be easy. That does not mean you should stay together, but just think about if you are trying to take the easy way out by looking again.
It's too late for my cup tonight, but hopefully you get yours.
The definition of a migraine is:
A recurrent throbbing headache that typically affects one side of the head and is often accompanied by nausea and disturbed vision.
Yet, if you are like me and suffer from them, there is much more to it. Some have auras or spinning shapes across their vision, sensitivity of light and noise, but basically it is a bed sentence. You are literally forced into your bed and wait for the pain to go away. This is not a headache. I can't just take two aspirin and make it through. I literally need silence and a very dark room. The time frame that this lasts can vary but even after it is done, it takes a few days for you to be able to go through a normal day without exhaustion and if you get any stress, the migraine might come back.
So, what am I ranting about now?
I get tired of trying to explain this phenomenon to the normal society. When you miss work or school for this, people think you are faking or asking for a day off. You get chastised. Put down. Looked at as a bad employee or student. Like you don't care. I would trade anything to get rid of these things permanently.
Did you know...
- In the U.S., more than 28 million people suffer from migraines, according to a 2001 report from the National Institutes of Health's National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke.
- Migraine can be considered a disability.
I am a lucky one of sorts. I don't suffer as often. I was so upset when I figured our that I suffer about once a month. But there are people who suffer once every week. But then, as an employer or school official, would you believe the person who suffers weekly, or monthly?
If you wonder if your "headache" is a migraine, take this quiz.
But PLEASE, if you hear of someone suffering from a migraine, don't think of it as a simple headache.
Oh, and if you want to learn more, check out the site that has the migraine quiz above. You just might learn something.
Enjoy your cup this morning. Ponder. Dream. But always be happy with what you have. Because tomorrow, it might be gone.
First and foremost, Happy Birthday to my son! He is now 11 years old.
Now for the thought of the day...
As I was sitting here getting ready for my day, I heard my son say:
"When I teach Chemistry, it is going to be so AWESOME!"
My kids were talking about what they want to be when they grow up. Do you remember those types of talks? Can you remember some of the things you wanted to be? I remember wanting to be a firefighter when I was in kindergarten. As I got older, I changed to teacher. Then I wanted to be a veterinarian. I love animals. In fact, I kept that dream until I went to check out colleges. I decided I could never put an animal to sleep. So my mom gave me another choice. I could go on from here but I think you get the point. My dream kept changing. Sometimes it would change many times a day. Even now I am back in school because I want to do something else.
So Krystine, get to the point?!?!
My point is this: We need to continue to dream. To hope. To change our minds about our future. In all the problems I have faced, it never occurred to me to give up and just do nothing. Yet, I see people all around me do what their parents said they should be doing in life, or maybe it was their husband. But there is no sparkle in their eye, no interest. Even worse, they just see themselves as being in the same job, the same place, for the rest of their lives.
Think about that today. What are your dreams? And if you don't have any, come up with some. You can even make yourself a bucket list if you are into having it written down. But make sure you are looking at the future as something positive. Give yourself something to get up in the morning.
I should say, give yourself something to get up for other than that all important cup. :)
I don't know how many of you have animals gracing your house. Every one I have ever had seems to give me joy but it is each of their personalities that always has me smiling and wondering how each could be so different.
Currently, I have 2 dogs. These two dogs are roughly the same age (less than a year apart).One is a Bischon and the other is a Cockapoo. They are both girls but one is black and one is white. A perfect opposite of each other.
Dutchess, the Bischon, is what I would consider a grump of a dog. She sleeps all the time. Cuddles in the worst places, and will growl at you if you try to move her. Although she is the oldest, she is the smallest, but their sizes are quite similar. She is a licker of every part of your body she can reach. But mainly, she is my lap dog and my 3 AM alarm clock reminding me that someone has come home in the complex.
Jocee, the Cockapoo is best described as a toddler. Yes she is a cuddler and a major licker, like her sister, she is also clumsy and tends to wake up way to early in the morning for my tastes. (Which is saying something since I am usually up at 5AM) But it is her vibrancy of life that has me smiling right now. She finds everything interesting. She chews every pencil and pen in the house she can find and will eat every kind of food she can get her nose on. And don't you dare leave her at home or there will be a mess to clean up when you get back.
But it is the little tennis balls that I just love to see her with. She will pick them up, throw them over her head, and then fetch them. She will bring them to you and drop them at your feet just waiting for you to throw them for her to go find. But it is the new balls she loves the most. She will squeak that ball until she pops it, which never takes long. "Squeak-a, squeak-a!" It leaves me smiling for more. I just wish she would love the larger balls that she couldn't pop. This is getting to be an expensive joy in both our lives. Sounds like she lost the ball under the couch again. I better go help her.
Squeak-a!
Have that perfect cup for me.
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